John 5: 5-6; “And a certain man was there, which had an infirmity thirty and eight years. When Jesus saw him lie, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, he saith unto him, Wilt thou be made whole?”
Like this 38 year old who encountered Christ, have we not all been “a long time in that case (or not well)?”
Do we not all long to be “whole”?
How did we lose this sense of wholeness; where we feel separated from our spiritual selves to one degree or another?
We have lost a sense of rhythm - a willingness to breathe, think, walk, speak, laugh, cry, and be silent at our own pace, in our own time. (Julie Redstone)
Think of yourself for a minute. What holes in your own life keep you from feeling complete? Is it a dysfunctional family that did not teach you to love fully? A broken relationship that keeps you from trusting? A lack of faith from prayers unanswered? Or is it just a spiritual malaise that comes and goes over the course of time.
Indeed as one person put it; we “all live lives of quiet desperation”.
If that is true we all have cavernous souls, waiting to be filled. For as Neil A. Maxwell said, “adversity is the great excavator of the soul.” And how do we compensate for this sense of emptiness? Some overeat, like meJ. We pray. Cry. Walk. Talk. Work. Spend. All searching to become whole with what we have lost in coming to this mortal world. That sense of connection to each other, ourselves and to God. We are seeking to become ONE.
But we don’t need to seek alone. I’d like to speak today on how we can help each other become whole through spiritual service. Service not to the masses, but service to the ONE.
Who is the ONE?
The one is a family member that struggles with self-esteem
The one is a ward member that suffers from depression
The one is a neighbor that has an addiction problem
The one is a friend that is in financial distress
But most of all, the one is us; it is you & it is me
I believe that serving the one requires a certain closeness to those we serve and to God. So how do we personally become close to our Heavenly Father, ourselves, and others? We serve on a personal, visceral level. Where it counts.
Dallas Merrell said:
“Service is at the heart of eternal life and our personal destinies. The basic test in this life is what we choose to do and become. The Savior has told us what to do: “For the works which ye have seen me do that shall ye also do” (3 Ne. 27:21). He has said what we should become: “Therefore, what manner of men ought ye to be? Verily I say unto you, even as I am” (3 Ne. 27:27). By choosing to do His work we become like Him.”
So by serving we draw closer to our own personal destiny. Eternal Life. But it also takes faith:
From faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, with justified hope in our hearts, comes appreciation for what the Savior has done for us. This brings the spirit of charity—a love for God and a desire to participate in the great work of serving His children. Moroni proclaims: “Wherefore, there must be faith; and if there must be faith there must also be hope; and if there must be hope there must also be charity”
Notice the relationship between faith, hope and charity.
King Benjamin asked how someone can know a master he has not served (see Mosiah 5:13). We come to know our Master through having faith, hope, and charity; this combination is the doctrinal fountain from which flow service, discipleship, and eternal life.
In particular I believe it takes faith and hope in ourselves to develop charity for others. Haven’t each one of us felt incapable of performing charity because of our own personal weakness or despair? The Lord is telling us that if we will just have faith and hope in ourselves, and in Him, we will have the personal capacity to serve.
I have found this true in my own life. From one personal challenge to the next I have felt my personal energy, and therefore my ability to serve others, wax and wane. But it’s clear that as I have been blessed with an increased level of hope and happiness I have been in a better position to help others. I’ll give you an example.
Most of you know I have battled a chronic illness throughout my life. I used to go to my doctor’s office, thinking it was the most miserable place I could be. It reminded me of the frustration and pain of dealing with my disease. I would avoid that place at all cost. I couldn’t drive by the building without getting physically sick. But eventually I found hope and healing in that place. Through modern medicine I found inner health, and in turn confidence. Not long had passed when I started a new business. I engaged a realtor to find suitable office space for the company. After looking at many options he took me to the last possible location. The office he showed me was in that same doctor’s building that I used to loath, literally underneath his office. I thought “is this possible”? Could I sit here every day, so close to that memory of pain? Why am I being led here? The answer would come soon enough. After the search I decided to locate there. Now as I watch patients walk in and out of the lobby I feel the pain they endure, the same pain I used to have. But in officing there I have had the opportunity to pass my doctor in the parking lot and in the hallways. Over time we have developed a personal friendship that has helped me help others. This guy is world class in his profession and does not take new patients because of the demand on his time. Well, because of this friendship I have been able to refer literally dozens of people to him. In fact, many of you here today know this doctor well as he has helped you or your families, including:
Drug addiction, depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue, eating disorders, anger, the ravages of homosexuality, and other really vicious disabilities. Daughters who are off at college. A wife struggling to leave the home. Missionaries returning early. Fathers trying to earn a living. Sons trying to measure up. And that’s just from this ward. Many others have sought help from me for other emotional ailments.
Because this doctor’s office screens out newcomers I sometimes make the appointment under my name in order to get it into the computer system, take my friend into the office, and leave them with my doctor to work on healing the body and mind—in order that the patient can feel the Lord’s hand in healing the soul. I have often wondered aloud with him about starting a single clinic just for my friends and family. Sadly, in today’s world of spiritual and physical fragmentation we would make a killing.
I’m ashamed to say that it’s been the single biggest contribution I’ve made to the one lately. But as one man said,
“I am a man, I am only a man. I cannot do every thing. But I can do one thing. And by the grace of God I shall do that one thing.”
A simple example of how the Lord blesses us so we can bless others. On a personal and visceral level. I’ve had the opportunity to hear the hopes and dreams of these people, sometimes fleeting, and have seen them walk the dark halls of illness. And I’ve watched them beat the odds, endure when they can’t, and in most cases flourish spiritually.
Again Brother Merrell:
“Charity is not just works or gift giving, but a condition of the soul, a quality of our character. The gift of charity flows from God as He reveals His love for us, and from our reciprocating—feeling love for God, His work, and His children.
Devoted service and discipleship are the same. We are to be “willing to bear one another’s burdens,” “to mourn with those that mourn,” and to “comfort those that stand in need of comfort”.
I believe we all “stand in need of comfort”. For we all lack some wholeness. We all long to be one with ourselves and the Lord.
Elder Wirthlin gave an excellent talk in conference on this. He identified three categories of people in our midst. All of them are in need of spiritual service. I’d like you to think about yourself, and which one of these categories you fit into.
1. Those that are different
“They conclude that they are not needed [because of the] erroneous belief that all members of the Church should look, talk, and be alike. The Lord did not people the earth with a vibrant orchestra of personalities only to value the piccolos of the world. Every instrument is precious and adds to the complex beauty of the symphony. All of Heavenly Father’s children are different in some degree, yet each has his own beautiful sound that adds depth and richness to the whole.”
“This variety of creation itself is a testament of how the Lord values all His children. He does not esteem one flesh above another, but He “inviteth them all to come unto him and partake of his goodness; and he denieth none that come unto him, black and white, bond and free, male and female; . . . all are alike unto God.”3
2. Those that are weary
He says that for those that are tired, or discouraged, or slow, the flock moves on, gradually, almost imperceptibly, and some fall behind. Have you ever felt that the “flock” is leaving you behind, imperceptibly at first. Then at once you feel that you are left alone?
This is the plight of those “whose hands hang down and who carry a heavy burden”.
Weary, we are full of fear of not meeting expectations of who we are “supposed” to be.
3. Those that have strayed.
“Except for the Lord, we have all made mistakes. Some, after making mistakes, stray from the fold. This is unfortunate. Do you not know that the Church is a place for imperfect people to gather together—even with all their mortal frailties—and become better? Every Sunday in every meetinghouse throughout the world, we find mortal, imperfect men, women, and children who meet together in brotherhood and charity, striving to become better people, to learn of the Spirit, and to lend encouragement and support to others. I am not aware of any sign on the door of our meetinghouses that reads “Restricted Entrance—Perfect People Only.”
Are you as guilty as me of thinking everyone else has it all together? This is a myth.
And Neil A. Maxwell admonished that "It is our job to lift others up, not to size them up."
No one has it all together. In fact, by definition each one of us is fragmented. Each one of us fits into one of the three categories at one time or another.
If this is true, and I believe that it is, each one of us needs to give, and receive, spiritual service. How is this done? We need only to turn to the Savior’s example:
Brother Merrell: “Jesus Christ is the model servant. As he prepared to enter into mortality, the Messiah pledged, “On the morrow come I into the world, to show the world that I will fulfil all that which I have caused to be spoken by the mouth of my holy prophets” (3 Ne. 1:13)—to fulfill His ancient and ageless covenant of service and sacrifice for mankind. The resurrected Savior’s example of service was very personal, for “he came down and stood in the midst of them” (3 Ne. 11:8). He spent time with them one-on-one, taught them, prayed for and with them. He blessed the sick, lame, maimed, deaf, blind, and dumb. He blessed and prayed in behalf of the little children with such tenderness and spiritual impact that His words could not even be written.”
He was surrounded by multitudes and spoke to thousands, yet He always had concern for the one. “For the Son of man is come to save that which was lost,”1 He said. “What man of you, having an hundred sheep, if he lose one of them, doth not leave the ninety and nine in the wilderness, and go after that which is lost, until he find it?”
This notion of one-on-one is very compelling. Impact. Spirit to spirit. A sharing that brings wholeness to a riddled soul. How does this work?
Albert Einstein sheds some light: “Strange is our situation here upon the earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to a divine purpose. From the standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know: that we are here for the sake of others…For the countless unknown souls with whose fate we are connected by a bond of sympathy.”
Our fate is connected to the one, by a bond of sympathy for the one.
As Adlai Esteb said, “Sympathy is your pain in my heart.”
This sympathy inextricably links each one of us, tethered together like life rafts in the ocean. As we show sympathy, we build that rope that keeps the rafts together. None of us will get back alone. We act when we can act. But always sympathy.
As with Paul, we hope to serve willingly.
1 Corinthians 9:19--Paul said, "Though I am free from all men, yet have I made myself servant of all."
And in Romans: “For I long to see you, that I may impart unto you some spiritual gift, to the end ye may be established; That is, that I may be comforted together with you by the mutual faith both of you and me.”
The life rafts, tethered together, bound by faith and mutual comfort. Sympathy. To the end you may be established; or in other words restore wholeness.
Spiritual service, showing sympathy, doesn’t come in a blaze of glory. It is not necessarily profound or historic. In fact, this type of service often goes unrecognized by the masses; quiet.
But as Mother Teresa said, “We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature’s trees, flowers, grasses grow in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence...we need silence to be able to touch souls.”
And so quietly, silently, we impact the souls, the destinies, of others.
In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.
(Given by Tom P. in June 2008 in Park City, UT)
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